Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Chapter 1

Chapter 1
Rationale
INTRODUCTION

Passive-Aggressive relationship between parents and children has been one of the major problems in a family. This constitutes the passive way the child relates to his parents. This means, the teenager does things on his/her own without even bothering to care about his/her parents with the constant feeling of indifference towards them. The parents begin to try to reach out to the teenager in a seemingly aggressive way, making quite a strain in their relationship. Sometimes, it goes the other way around; when the parents lack attachment to child and regard him/her passively, the child becomes aggressive for attention.
Psychologists have studied the relationship between parents and children numerous times; specifically, they examined the relationship between the parents’ childrearing style and the child’s pro social behavior and the child’s sociometric status. Factor analyses of parental behavior revealed two factors: Authoritative/Democratic and Authoritarian/Restrictive that appeared to be predictive on both the child’s pro social behavior and sociometric status (PsycINFO Database Record, 2010).In addition, an article entitled Theorizing the Father-Child Relationship: Mechanisms and Developmental Outcomes (Paquette, 2004) proposed that fathers play a particularly important role in the child’s openness to the world. There had been a lot of contradicting results that were gathered by psychologists that until now the root cause of the conflicts that happen between parents and their child remained vague and unclear.
Most families have not been able to overcome their differences with each other for they do not understand the root of the conflicts they are in, in the first place. They are also uncertain on how to approach and resolve the problem without being able to hurt one another. Most families will fall farther and farther apart if this friction between them would not be resolved. In understanding the very important relationship that every person is involved to, both parents and child should be understood (Simon and Schuster, 1996).
According to Stephanie Manley (2011), a good relationship brings freedom; there is no manipulation, control or suspicion. In a relationship, there should be respect for the other person and an understanding that one could not escape conflicts with each others’ likes and dislikes (Manley, 2011). This concept is also applicable to a parent-child relationship. For Robin McClure (2011), parents should accept their child for who he/she really is and allow him/her to be who he/she really is. Without some degree of caring, there can be no relationship. We live in a world that is almost robotic, and as a result, emotions are very often numbed. So, it takes parents and teenagers to be unselfish to maintain a good and strong lifetime affiliation (Graham, 2010).
One of the concerns of the rationale is to determine all the factors related in the study. The environment in where our respondents are exposed to is highly considered, and how each variable relate to each other. With different environment and different generation, it is inevitable for the teenagers and their parents to have misunderstandings and differences. Due to these differences, many parents have unknowingly made mistakes on handling their children and teenagers had been increasingly indifferent with their parents in fear of rejection.
The assessment of the factors that affect their communication can be administered on teenagers belonging to different kinds on environment and social status to find out how teenagers of different class group relate with their parents. Different kinds of environment can generate different kinds of influence on the teenagers’ view on family relationship. The different factors that each teenager is exposed to will be tested and evaluated to come up with more narrow ideas.
HYPOTHESIS
The more aggressive the parents are to their child, the more passive the child will be towards them, the more problematic their relationship can get. Most of the teenagers who belong to the middle-class and the lower class, with a patriarchal family will likely to have this kind of relationship. The more passive the parents are to their child, the more aggressive the child will be towards them for attention, and the more difficult the situation will be. This can mostly happen to upper class and the lower class with a problematic family setting. There may be interchanges in the situation but results would be based on the majority.
STATEMENT OF THE PROBLEM
The study aims to know the reasons behind the development of a passive-aggressive relationship between parents and teenagers. Specifically, the study aims to:
1. Determine the contribution of parents to the development of a passive behavior of teenagers.
2. Determine other factors that could influence the teenagers into developing a passive attitude to their parents.
3. Classify a passive attitude.
4. Determine whether teenagers cause the aggressiveness of their parents towards them especially in terms of decision making.
5. Determine other factors that cause the development of an aggressive behavior of parents towards their teenagers.
6. Classify an aggressive attitude.
7. Determine the cause of the development of a passive-aggressive behavior.

SIGNIFICANCE OF THE STUDY
This study will address to the increasing number of parents and teenagers having relationship problems. The purpose of this study is to evaluate the factors on family relationships and figure out how the interaction of the teenagers to their parents affect the way their parents relate to them and vice versa. This study can help ascertain the real trigger to the diminishing relationship and find possible solutions for it. In determining the trigger, this can make both parents and teenagers aware of how to interact with each other and avoid more complications in their way. They can be more aware of the aspects that affect their relationship and stay away from those that can cause negativity in their bond.
This study will help both parents and teenagers realize their expectations and limitations. By doing so, parents will not have any reason to meddle with their teenager’s right to decision making. Teenagers will no longer have any reason to rebel against their parents. Thus, mutual trust and respect will develop. This study will make parents and teenagers realize the worth of open communication in a family. In addition, this study will help for the promotion of a better family connection.

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